The holidays can be especially difficult for those going through the fertility journey. Well-intended but intrusive questions and comments from loved ones can cause tremendous stress and anxiety. Here are some quick tips to help you navigate the days ahead.
The holidays are a perfect time to gather and catch up with friends and family members. Your loved ones may ask about your fertility and family building journey. Only share as much as you’re comfortable with. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and don’t feel guilty about it. It may help to plan responses to difficult questions ahead of time so you’re not caught off guard.
Here are a few examples of responses you can have ready to go:
- “I’m undergoing fertility treatment. I’ll make sure to let you know when I have good news to share.”
- “That’s not something I want to talk about at this time.”
- “Let’s talk about something else. Any upcoming travel plans?”
Scrolling through social media may become particularly stressful and triggering during the holidays as others may use this time to share exciting news about their fertility and family building journeys. Consider taking a break and disconnecting from your social media platforms for a few days.
Find time for yourself
The hustle and bustle of the holidays can add stress to an already stressful fertility journey. Make sure to schedule some “me time” and practice self care in a way that works for you. You can watch your favorite tv shows, read a book, take a walk, meditate, etc. The most important thing is to include time for yourself in your plans.
Communicate with those you trust
Talk to those you trust and let them know what your needs are this holiday season. Tell them what your “escape” plan might be. It’s ok to not feel okay and to not be in a festive mood. Let them know how you feel and lean on them for support during your fertility journey.
Be easy on yourself
The fertility journey is deeply personal and often difficult. Cut yourself some slack. You do not owe anyone an explanation. Do what is best for you. Remember that infertility is not your fault and that you are not alone in the fertility journey.
If you’re in the middle of a fertility cycle and plan on traveling during the holidays, watch this video for a few helpful tips.
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