1) Choose the adoption path that is best suited to your family dream (private or public, domestic or intercountry). Start with a family planning consultation to map the right route for your family and how to choose an ethical adoption professional/agency.
2) Build a budget and funding plan early. Typical costs vary widely: domestic and intercountry adoptions can run from $30,000–$100,000+, while foster-care adoption is often low to no-cost. Leverage the federal Adoption Tax Credit ($17,280 max per child for tax year 2025) and any employer-provided adoption assistance.
3) Prepare for your home study. Expect background checks, references, interviews, education, and a home safety review.
4) Understand your family leave options. Under FMLA, eligible employees can take up to 12 weeks of job-protected unpaid leave for adoption/placement; some states also offer paid family leave. Check your employer policy for any paid benefits.
5) Care for yourselves, emotionally and practically. Adoption involves big emotions (excitement, uncertainty, and potentially grief). Normalize ongoing support for you and your child that aligns with advances in adoption medicine, attachment and bonding research, and adoption parenting recommendations.
6) Keep immaculate records. Save invoices, receipts, and mileage logs for taxes and any employer reimbursement; you can claim the credit excluding any employer benefits.
7) After placement: finalize and build your village. Complete post-placement visits, court finalization, and (for intercountry) any citizenship steps as advised by your attorney/agency. Keep engaging with adoption-competent providers and peer communities.
